Friday, May 22, 2015

My First World Problems

It's been such a long time since I have checked in here. I'm not exactly sure how to explain my missing self. Turtle and I have been, for lack of a better term, renovating our basement, among other life things one usually gets caught up in. I don't like the term "renovating" because to me that seems like we are ripping out everything and starting over which is SO not the case. Also, when I say "we" that means "we" are doing it. We did have to hire out the flooring because the area was large and probably not the best idea for beginners who don't really have the time to do it. (No. 1 just explained the keystroke noises are "annoying." How does she even know that word and what it means?) Just to re-cap we had two separate minor floods in the basement over the past 10 months and the basement was insanely ugly to begin with. Don't you love those forced home projects?

School has been out a little over a week which means I have entered potty training bootcamp with the twins, also known as hell. They are honestly not doing too badly with it besides the fact Turtle traumatized Hadley by having to clean her dirty diaper (which is what the bootcamp book "instructs" you to do) so she didn't poop for FOUR days. It was very pitiful and I had resolved to give her a diaper if that's what it took for her to poop but she eventually cried and went on the baby potty. We have broken barriers equivalent to taking down the Berlin Wall. It's just tough because I still feel that I cannot venture out for very long periods of time. Our yard seems to be breeding ground for poison ivy/oak this year and we are working on killing it but it's difficult to keep the kids out of it. Short of bringing one of my baby potties directly into the playground area because it seems frowned upon to leave a 2 year old and a 4 year old unattended while you take one to the bathroom, I'm not sure what to do. Getting one potty training child to the bathroom in time is a feat in itself, much less trying to corral the other two who do not have to go, to come with you. This also results in you having to tell the Comcast repair technician to wait on your porch for five minutes while you run around like a mad woman trying to locate clothes for your children.

I can definitively tell you we have poison ivy in the yard because I have contracted it. I can't tell you how, when or why but I have it. Now, I do not seem to get clusters of bumps that are very indicative of the rash. I thought I had some bug bits on my neck, but then they seemed to be spreading. I had to drag potty training toddlers to Urgent Care one morning where I was told I had a food allergy. I'm terribly freaked out and started to do a Whole 30 because I had no idea what was giving me a reaction. I had a dermatologist appointment the next day to remove some stitches in my back and decided to beg politely for a second opinion, where the news was delivered to me I do indeed have poison ivy. I paid a $50 urgent care co-pay for a quack doctor who cannot tell me I have poison ivy folks. Then I might have recalled being rubbed with a "tree star" that Harper found but I'm still not sure how I got the poison ivy. The stitches were from a mole removal that was biopsied and came back with abnormal cells that were not cancerous so they wanted to take out the margins. All clear now even though it's not healing well.

I will try to be back, though I'm sure the only one who has missed my presence is the Married Gal. I've had some technical frustrations from a very busted up iPad that doesn't blog well and a slow and old computer. Turtle has advised me to just use the Google Chrome and not go through Safari. This is just downright irritating to me as a woman though because Safari SHOULD work, am I right? I don't care if the Chrome works. I have an iMac. It should WORKKKKKKK!!!!

If you need me I'll be managing what is sort of a Blue Lagoon meets indoor plumbing, my island rash and my lack of being able to use modern medicine to heal a cut in my back. Party on Wayne.

Wednesday, April 29, 2015


...not worrying about the fact that all floors and surfaces need to be vacuumed

...researching eating according to macronutrients

...reading "The Opposite of Lonliness" 

...making a conscious effort to be minimally scheduled in the month of May 

...a week behind on most emails but can't make myself open that damn laptop after hours

...wondering what in the hell is eating my rosebush

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Thank God for Weekends

It's been one of those weeks where I am drowning in work and cannot see the end (even though I know there will be a reprieve), I haven't made it to the gym at all, it's been raining all week, traffic has been utter hell, I haven't been able to find the energy to read a single page in the book I wanted to start this week...I could go on.  But on the week of my 1 year work anniversary I cannot help but remember how lucky I am to be employed and for this lovely reminder of how freaking great weekends (and wine) are.  Even though I'm sad that Matt and I have been passing like ships in the night and will continue to do so this weekend I think I needed to come home Friday night to an empty and quiet house. 

  • I spent Friday doing a few chores to get ahead of the weekend and catching up on some internet reading.  Jaclyn Day's blog is by far one of my very favorites -- she posts really good shopping finds, links great articles and generally never runs out of interesting things to put forth into my world. 
  • I am really taking advantage of Spotify lately.  This playlist was pretty neat.  I like that I usually listen to something random that I never would normally listen to when I'm on the site. 
  • One of the highlights of my week was getting my hair colored.  I ventured out to the Aveda School because we have one here in Atlanta and the prices are insanely good for the students. I have not had my hair really highlighted since I was in college other than  my dabble in ombre the last year or so.  It feels crazy but at the same time I'm strangely wanting more blonde already. I got a cut and full foil for $90. 
  • I joined a Pug Playgroup that meets once a month.  I missed April's meeting up but May is Pug Prom.  My heart may explode.  (Did I mention this already? I am so tired I can't even remember!)
Tonight Matt and I are spending the night at the Housewife's place and watching all the little ones until tomorrow morning so she can have a fancy date night in the city.  Other than that I'm grabbing a few plants at Home Depot and doing some more work to hopefully get caught up for the upcoming week -- apologies to everyone that comes in on Monday to emails from me on Saturday. I'm sorry that I have to be that person. 

Happy weekend! 

~the married gal~

Friday, April 10, 2015

Friday Five

Happy Friday, everyone! We made it! I'll try to keep it short and sweet with the Friday Five today. 

1. I'm going through a true revolution mentally with my time.  About two weeks ago I got tired of hearing myself say "I'm so busy" or "This week is just really busy".   How am I almost 32 years old and realized this is just life?  All these things I am categorizing as "keeping me busy" or tied down were just part of life.  Then it sort of hit me that I don't want to refer to all the stuff I do daily or weekly to be busy items.  And you guys -- I'm not even lying or trying to hard to be cool when I say that it has really changed me and my daily outlook.  It is a lot more positive and for someone who gets stressed out really easily removing "the busy" has gained me an incredible amount of freedom.  This week has been a little harder than the last due to a full calendar but I am stopping myself from using the B word when it pops into my brain.  My world is new.  TRY IT. 

2. Matt and I went to The Masters on Wednesday.  It is so rare that we get a day together like this with no other obligations, neither one of us is at work, etc.  We had an amazing day. This was me before my makeup melted off.

p.s. they will not allow cell phones in Augusta National and the only allow pictures Monday - Wednesday.  We had quite a laugh digging out my actual digital camera and I forgot how good the pictures can be! 

3.  Last week I had Craigslist success stalking a mid-century dresser.  Paid a little more for it than I wanted (still less than asking) but the guy was literally only 10 minutes from my house and I have searched Goodwill and the list for what seems like eternity to find a dresser in this condition.  I was just ready to commit.  Note this is my "under construction/storage area" guest room. Don't look for many updates anytime soon. :/

4. I'm finally forming my vision for the guest room and these euro shams are speaking to me. Too bad it may be a while before I can splurge.  They are of course, out of stock (and freaking $75 each) right now -- which is pretty true for most things I find that I actually like.  Sad face. 

5.  I get so many audio books at the library now for my commute -- but then I get really into them and want to listen at the gym, at home, etc.  Of course I can put them in my DVD player at home but what about the gym? I could kill some cardio with them.  

Y'all -- I am really considering bringing back the Discman. They legit still sell them and I could Amazon Prime that little guy right to my house by Monday.  Matt has basically told me he is completely ashamed to be seen with me for even thinking about this. 

Monday, March 23, 2015

Monday Inspiration

Guys, I know I am super obsessed with Ted Talks lately. I don't even know who I am anymore -- except that I've been working really hard to be truly purposeful with my down time and making sure I'm doing something positive, productive, and in a lot of instances doing something to better myself. 

I hope that you are able to take the time to view and listen to this one in its entirety.  I have to admit, I mainly clicked the link because of my inherent curiosity on what Monica Lewinsky would even say.  But her discussion on our culture of shame and the monies made from public humiliation is spot on and worth a listen.  I used to read US Weekly, People Mag, etc.  Over the years, I pretty much refuse to engage in these publications and try not to pay attention to a lot of the garage in the media.  My last forray involved looking at a cover that had Angelina Jolie and Jennifer Anniston wearing the same sunglasses or something to that effect.  That's when I realized I had better things to do with time and that there are better things to read.  Even still, I am avid Twitter user, avid Instagram scroller and can certainly not say that I haven't wanted to cast judgement and shame on strangers involved in scandal.  This was a great Sunday listen for me this weekend.  I hope you can glean something from it also. 

~the married gal~

Monday, March 16, 2015

Monday Inspiration

I didn't want to get too heavy on a Monday but I came across this article in the Washington Post this weekend and it really resonated with me.  I have been working a lot and in between progress and feeling discouraged at never ending emails I really enjoyed this article.  

{via linked article}

Lillian Cunningham interviews University of Houston professor Brene Brown (they also link some of her Ted Talks...must look into these also) about vulnerability in the workplace.  Really thought this was a great read for my Monday and wanted to share. 

Here is the link to her Ted Talk  on Vulnerability in the Workplace that I promise myself I will listen to at some point this week. 

Thoughts? Anyone else feel like they can never get it all done? 

~the married gal~

Sunday, March 15, 2015

Three Months Wed

Just checking in to report that we have made it through 1/4 a year of marriage without killing each other or anything very dramatic.  Being married remains fun and awesome but I'm here for Real Talk all the same.   I have been working a lot and Matt has been out of town a lot so I did get some takeaways from the last month for sure. 

-it remains in life that we are able to get too "busy" and too "tired" at the end of the day to connect with anyone.  We have these days like everyone else.  Especially since I have been working a lot since January.  We do a great job catching up at night before bed but I want to be better about the Cell Phone Devil and rolling over and scrolling away before I fall asleep.  

-we still do a great job at the "little things".  Sweet notes around the house.  Taking care of dinner or making dinner together.  A kiss every day before we leave each other whether the other person is asleep or we decide on a minor make -out in the garage as we leave together. Asking Matt to go see a movie because I know that is something HE enjoys and even though I don't love movies it's still important for me to recognize the things he loves.

-I think what I love most about marriage is what it will really show you about yourself -- the good, the bad, the ugly.   I'm not perfect and the reflection you see of yourself when you live the days so close with another can really bring some things to your attention along with the recognition for some change.  Little things like living in the moment, not worrying about a huge to do list, and worries about being defined by how productive I am are some things I am working on.  

-in other news -- I still haven't managed to change my name.  But I'm working to remedy that this week -- I looked online and I believe that I can just mail in my request with my pertinent documents.  I have the application filled out. Baby steps. Then onward to the DMV and my second passport issue within a year. Hopefully I don't get flagged as a terrorist. At first I complained a lot about the hassle of a name change but I was driving to work one day and remembered that I'm incredibly lucky to be the girl Matt picked.  Having this last name is a fantastic and wonderful thing.  

Happy Sunday!